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8/26/2008
Divorce rate in South Africa?
What is the main reason why people can’t maintain monogamous relationships?
Men are more prone to cheat, it is in their nature, they are hunters wanting to spread their seed..............I also think it has to do with sex or lack of sex. Women tend to "cool off" after their children have been born, either because of pure exhaustion or either hormones, boredom etc. I think both partners must make an effort to ensure that sex is kept alive during the marriage, although a relationship is not purely based on sex, it is very important.
I honestly believe that it boils down to sheer boredom, it's difficult to appreciate the same person with continued
excitement and enthusiasm for 10 to 30 consecutive years and to keep the relationship interesting, both physically and emotionally, it takes a great deal of work and commitment and some are not prepared to work at it in an age where time is always a major constraint and lives are stressful.
I don't think men are bigger cheats than women, it just seems that way, women are certainly also capable of philandering and bear in mind it takes two persons to have an affair, not only a cheating husband.
I personally try and ensure that I never put myself in situations where an affair would become likely or a
possibility, rather remove the temptation that fight against it.
Men are spoilt for choice, and with the gorgeous women of SA they can’t keep their tongues in their mouths long enough to realise looks don’t make a woman. Some rush into marriage and end up realising much later that they don’t really know each other as well as they thought they did. Most new couples put up such a facade and can never keep it up once the relationship progresses. Communication barriers as well, we speak totally different relationship languages.
